So for those of you who don’t know, Horton the Elephant of Dr. Seuss fame is known for saying, “I meant what I said and I said what I meant; an elephant’s faithful one-hundred percent.” In fact, if you know the story, you’ll realize that he didn’t just say it, he followed through with it. It would be a very sad, meaningless quote if he hadn’t done so. Anyway, it has become apparent to me over the years that no one follows these Hortonian ideals. I can immediately recall several occasions during my college years during which a friend (?) said that they would do something, no maybe’s or probably’s attached, and then later backed out because it was not convenient. In each case, I wouldn’t have cared about them not doing whatever it was except that they had previously said they would.
For instance, I thought until an hour ago that I finally found roommates for North Village next year. We had a meeting early last week where Girl A (the names have been changed to protect the not-so-innocent) said, “So we are definitely all rooming next year right?” We all responded positively. Girl A sent an email to me an hour ago saying, “I am so terribly sorry to have to do this, but I have been selected from the waiting list to live off campus for next year. I really have to take the chance for financial reasons in my family. I feel so horrible leaving you girls out, but I hope that I have left enough time for ya’ll to figure out another plan. I have talked to Girl B and will be sending a message to Girl C as well. Again, I am so super sorry to leave you girls.”
And thus it is that I yet again am lacking in four roommates. I’m not really understanding the “take the chance” part. She didn’t take any chances. She used us as a backup plan without telling us that she had really signed up for the off-campus lottery. Anyway, had Girl A been honest with us up front, I would not be practically boiling with anger towards her right now.
Basically, it would be really nice if people would let their yes be yes and their no be no. Don’t say you’ll do something if you can’t make a real commitment. A commitment isn’t a commitment unless you are going to do everything in your power to follow through.